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A Theme-Driven Bully-Proof Program Created by Self-Protection Experts for Powerful Results!

 

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Eye-Opening Statistics

  • 1 out of 4 kids is bullied.
  • 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school.
  • Each day 160,000 students in the US miss school for fear of being bullied.
  • 100,000 students carry a gun to school.
  • More youth violence occurs on school grounds as opposed to on the way to school.
  • Playground school bullying statistics – Every 7 minutes a child is bullied. Adult intervention- 4%, Peer intervention- 11%, No intervention- 85%
  • Teenagers say revenge is the strongest motivation for school shootings.
  • 61% said students shoot others because they have been victims of physical abuse at home.
  • 54% said witnessing physical abuse at home can lead to violence in school.
  • On average, a school with a population of 800 teenagers, 20 of them are at a “HIGH RISK” to commit a school shooting.

Now that’s some scary stuff!

 

Some General Bully-Proofing Information For You.

 

How do we bully-proof our kids?

Is it the schools responsibility or does it start at home?

Many parents believe it is the school’s responsibility to keep their children safe from bullies. I believe it is true that schools should establish an environment that discourages bullying behavior and safety precautions should be in place, such as strategic monitoring of areas, like bathrooms, hallways, locker rooms, etc. I mean, bullies don’t usually perform their acts right in front of authority figures, right?

But…why do some kids become bullies and others become “bully targets?” Yet others do not become either.

What kind of family do you have?

Bullying behavior is a “learned behavior.” Isn’t it a way for these individuals to cope with some sort of inadequacy, insecurity, loss of control or fear? Somehow, someway a “bully in the making” has witnessed someone else demonstrating a bully behavior and getting what they think are favorable results. Bingo…learned behavior.

As parents, what are we demonstrating to our children when we may feel insecure or at a loss of control???

Are you one of those families where the parent always swoops in to rescue the child? Sure, we always want to protect our children from danger or bad mistakes, but don’t we also want them to become confident and accountable in their own decisions and actions?

It certainly is a balancing act…

Remember, I grew up as a really shy kid and I learned first hand that mom, dad, teachers, the police are not always going to be there to protect you. How can they? We and our children need to have the skills and confidence to defend ourselves, whether its an ordinary verbal debate with someone or an all-out physical attack. How we raise our children is a huge factor on how they will react to adversity in their lives. So….

Let’s raise them to:

  • Be confident and believe in themselves.
  • Be trustworthy.
  • know they are cared for and listened to.
  • know they are important
  • Be optimistic
  • Be generous
  • Be determined
  • Want to “do good for others.”

What Are The Kinds of Bullying?

  • Physical
  • Verbal
  • Social

Some Warning Signs…

  • An abrupt lack of interest in school or refusal to go.
  • A sudden drop in grades.
  • Unusually hungry after school.
  • Goes to the bathroom immediately after school. (afraid to go at school)
  • Derogatory and demeaning language about peers.
  • Torn clothing and physical injuries.
  • Stomach aches, anxiety attacks, etc.

Why Your Child Usually Won’t Tell You.

  • Ashamed
  • Afraid of retaliation
  • “Nobody can help.”
  • “Nobody will help.”
  • “It’s part of growing up?” (adults do it too.)
  • Ratting on a classmate is bad and not cool.

How Can You Approach Your Child?

First, STAY CALM

Ask:

  • Who was involved?
  • What was said and done to you?
  • Who was around? What did they say or do?
  • When did it happen?
  • Where did it happen?
  • What did you do back?
  • Did you tell anyone? What did they do?
  • How long has this been going on?
  • Document everything.

Do Not:

  • Minimize the bully’s behavior
  • Rush in to solve the problem
  • Tell your child to avoid the bully by running or hiding (Bullys smell fear and it only prolongs the hurt)
  • Tell your child to “Fight Back!” (defend themselves and be assertive,yes)
  • Confront the bully or the bully’s parents alone.

Telling your child to “Fight Back” promotes violence and actually can escalate the situation into involving weapons and multiple attackers. Make sure your child knows they are not in this alone. Telling your child to ignore the bully might work, but also might escalate the bully’s behavior.

 

 

Role-Playing With Your Child

 

“Learning to use those words”

 

Kids Should:

  • Not get defensive.
  • Not retaliate.
  • Not be afraid to share the situation with their parents.
  • Know they are not alone.
  • Try to stay calm and not get visibly upset.
  • Try not to be alone.
  • Be careful who they give their phone number and e-mail to.
  • Practice not looking like an “easy target.”
  • Practice looking, walking and talking like a confident person. (body language, eye contact, tone of voice)
  • Not let the bully’s words make them feel bad. (Practice positive self-talk)
  • Not argue with the bully.
  • Practice verbal diversions
  • Hang out in groups.
  • Not expect to be mistreated.
  • Stay optimistic.
  • accept fear as a challenge.
  • consider training in a reality-based personal protection system. (build confidence by building skills)
  • Physical responses may become necessary, but as a last resort.

What Can Witnesses Do?

  • Do not stand and watch the mistreatment. (Bullys want an audience)
  • Tell the bully how everyone has something different about them.
  • Refuse to laugh. Be a “peace-maker” instead.
  • Don’t spread gossip.
  • Invite the victim to be part of your group.
  • BE A LEADER and encourage friends to not accept bullying.
  • SPREAD THE MESSAGE: “Bullying Is Weak! Pass it on…”

Cyber Rules

  • Never give personal contact info without a parent’s permission.
  • Never give out passwords except to parents.
  • Remember that the world is reading everything you say and you can’t take it back.
  • Follow the “Golden Rule” on line.
  • Immediately report any hurtful comments or threats to parents (authorities).
  • Do not participate in gossip.
  • Never upload or download pictures or videos without parent’s permission.

What is “Theme-Driven” Teaching?

Children are constantly bombarded with education, rules and safety information. Unfortunately, but understandably many times kids will lose focus and tune it all out.

It only makes sense that if you take the valuable information and convey it in a way that truly engages the child, they will learn and retain it much better.

By utilizing a theme, such as fantasy adventure (think Harry Potter) or Mission Impossible, you can teach by exciting the audience, creating challenges and rewards and even using mentor figures that inspires the child to learn.

The results are powerful.

 

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What the Professionals Have to Say…

 

Thomas A. Cordier CEO/Owner

NEW ENGLAND BEHAVIORAL HEALTH

“ The art of teaching self-defense requires embracing and teaching rudiments that include physical well-being, discipline and respect for others as well as how to defuse certain situations.

Rich is an expert at all of the above and he instills these rudiments in each and every student that he instructs. It is often difficult to gain someone’s trust, respect and attention; Rich’s integrity, his personal approach and his downright genuiness make this easy for him to achieve. Rich is not only a master in the art of teaching self-defense, but is well versed in human behavior and conditioning.

Rich Kohler’s students view him as an incredible instructor and mentor who not only takes interest in his students but has genuine concern for their well being.

I without reserve, highly recommend Rich Kohler’s instruction for children and adults.”

“In more cases than not, school systems are at the disadvantage of reacting to situations involving bullying. Rich Kohler’s Ultimate Bully Proof Boot Camp gives young people the ability to confidently stand up to bullies and take themselves off the “target list” safely, efficiently and on their own. As a professional educator and certified K-12 administrator, I wish more students possessed the knowledge, techniques and abilities that the “Boot Camp” teaches. I am 100% confident that this innovative program will have tremendously positive mental and physical impacts on any child fortunate enough to learn it.

Joseph Bonillo, Hartford,CT

Certified K-12 Administrator

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